i'm jus really curious...
So what is going to happen to you if your friends find out that you are dating a tranny? that you love having sex with tgirls? or that you've been busting your nuts to ts pics? Like, will all your homies be dissin on you right away? I'm like totally curious about how society has changed since the past 10 years or so!! Thnx!!
posted by @llenina at
1:12 AM
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well, speaking personally, i'm probably not the best one to answer this one ms A, since i aint got no friends or homies, and never having dated a tranny can't say i can speak authoritively regarding your second point and as for busting my nuts, i find
these days masturbation such a waste of time, if i get the horn in the morning then i have a ciggie and usually i find it goes away and i can start me day ok
....ts's interest me from a purely scientific point of view, i'd like to dissect their head to see if there's anything other than a slot there...i am joking seriously though, if you live your life with one eye on society's "morals" or what others' may think then you're travelling someone else's path, not your own free road or as free as one can be, agree?,...my theory for what it's worth is trannies will always be on the outside because mainstream society has a hard
time accepting individuality never mind such complex sexuality, you wont see a tranny reading the 10 o'clock news on this planet, still there's a role for everyone in life, some have harder obstacles to overcome to find it, but once there...go for it..ook too serious, where's my drink
I have had no problem with my friends. When i first started dating trannies about 10 years ago, I told my brothers and a few of my best friends and after some initial shock, they were totally cool about it. This year, I started a serious relationship with a Tgirl. Obviously my friends were prepared for it by now, and they have all, without exception, been cool about it, besides some harmless joking. There are still a few meat-head acquaintances I watch football with who I will probably keep it from as long as possible. But overall, I think people will be surprised at how accepting people are these days. The biggest problem is guys' own insecurity about what people will think of them. If you get over that and show some self-confidence to people that makes them understand that transexuals are not freaks to be ashamed of, then people will be totally cool about it. I've even got my conservative mid-western buddy's wife taking my girl out shopping with her for fun :) It's high-time that this shit was no big deal.
I left a comment before, but I guess it crashed... Short version, no, I don't think people are open-minded enough yet. I'm a big TS porno fan, consider myself straight, and I know that both gay and straight people do not understand the TS attraction. I myself, after experimenting around with different kinds of porno, did not understand it until I finally read something on the web that explained it as a fixation a significant number of straight men have. My impression is that I just like femininity, no matter how the person was born.
I would never want my friends to know, at least not now. I'm very pro LTGB rights, and am vocal about it, but even with that in mind, I know poeple would view me differently. My wife has had a hard time understanding the draw I have to this as well, and she's the only other person who knows. Even a gay roommate I had expressed major puzzlement at the shemale porn/TS lover attraction.
Btw, big fan here, Allenina. I'm actually almost your age, and was coming to grip with my desires around the same time you appear to have been, in the late 90s. Too bad we never met, I was skinny, blond, handsome, and had a sex drive that wouldn't quit ;)
Who cares what people think? Cool people dont care, Lou Reed didnt care.
I always tell it to girls that i have slept with tgirls because it is a big turn of for them! Guys have a harder time, but good friends just laugh and go on with their business. Who cares about categories? I am into graffiti and feminism, you cant cantegorize revolutionary things.....
they would make some jocke about it..after the initial shock, then most of then would be cool with it.
Anybody here work in an office environment would openly gay members? Even they are shy, and for good reason, because no one looks at them the same, and jokes get made behind their back. It will be the same for guys who are known to like TS -- most people just can't get over the fact that male equipment is on the female recipient (sometimes), so TS-lovers get wrongly lumped in with gay. So this is the sad reality, and you do have to care about what certain people think, that's just reality. I'm sure a lot of TS's out there wish they could ignore reality, but the discrimination hits them in the face and marginalizes them every day.
my friends MIGHT be a bit stand offish, not really sure how'd they react a bunch of them saw me kiss u on my bday and it got their wheels turning....but no one really said anything. I'm not really sure, but on the business side the press, plus other media people might not take it to well (even though they're all freaks behind closed doors but can't let anyone know) I like to keep my relationships private anyway no matter who I'm dating, the less people know about my personal life the better. People aren't open minded enough yet but close personal friends might be and that's what matters it's up to you if you can handle being in the background until people figure it out for themselves.
It might take another 20 years for the usa to figure it out.
hope that helps
ciao bella
Very good comments all I think. I'm a straight male whose had several relationships with Trnsgndr women. Although not here at home USA but in Thailand-Japan and Taiwan. I don't know but the girls here are different in there attitude about relationships. In Thailand no one asked is she or was she. So I didn't need to say. When my family and friends saw pictures of us no one asked. So why should I make a point to say? If I'm asked? Of course I'm going to tell the truth.
Attitudes toward TG girls are different in other countries too but not better just different. I don't masturbate to most TG Porn because it's geared more to my Bi brothers and Gay fellah's who are hiding out so to speak Hahaha. When I see Porn I want to see my TG in the same fashion as GG. I don't want to see a TG topping another guy. Just not for me but for others it's KOOL and I say enjoy. Bottom line, if she's with me she's my lady and I treat her just like what she is to me ... MINE ..Hahaha
So true, I hate the TS porn where they top another guy. Allenina did a scene like that in Spare Parts where it was perfect until she had to top the other guy -- I always skip that part.
don't know about anyone else but i would be curious to know what ms @'s experience has been, do her boyfriend's homies diss her right away, or maybe they wanna steal her away right away
I love watching TS porn and thought how I would be in a real life situation. Where do you go to meet TS? Around my friends I kid around about it but no one I know has a problem with it.
Congratulations for what you are...
Eric
France
When I lived in LA I dated an asian TS that was in a couple of movies. I had no problem being with her out and about in West Hollywood. We always held hands and kissed in public. Clubing at 7969 was XXX PDA. We were very much in love and thinking about getting married.
But in Orange County we would get stares. She was always scantly dressed and never without her stripper heels and that didn't help the cause. I remember this lady at the Irvine Spectrum pulling her teeny daughters who were staring at my lovely Jazmine.
I never introduced her to my friends or family because I knew they weren't open minded enough to understand. As much as one loves a TS, very few families would accept and understand so its a tough choice
-Los Lobos
Hi Allenina,
First, thanks for sharing your sexy self on this Web site :)
I have actually told my closest friends that I like t-girls. It's actually nobody's business, but in having conversations with close friends the subject eventually came up. I'm sure they think I'm freaky, but they were thinking that before my admitting my enjoying tgirls, lol.
I have never dated a tgirl, but if I did, she would be the girl who captured my eye, my lust, and hopefully my love. So my friends will need to respect my choice or they can just kiss my ass, lol.
Darn, if I was fortunate to be dating a woman like you, I think my friends would be too busy being jealous to be worried about my dating a tgirl :)
oxox,
Abs
The older I get the less friends I appear to have. The ones I do keep close to me are keepers, and they'll have no problem accepting my alternative lifestyle if they were to "discover it."
I'm not secretive about the fact that I enjoy kissing boys who look like girls, but I think that they interpret it as gest. Perhaps its my delivery that leads them to believe I'm joking, but I reckon everyone has their own way of coming out of the Tranny-Admiration-Closet.
In the end, if my friends can't tolerate my passion for the beauty that surrounds me then they're no friends of mine. Simple as that, its my life, fuck 'em.
Ciao,
Frank
I'm the type of person who doesnt care what anyone thinks other than the person he loves. So if I was dating a TS...who cares?!?! I dont! Heck...some of the TS girls I've seen are a million times hotter than most of the natural born women I've seen. So, for me, I would date them and openly admit it. People could say what they want, in the end, I would be the winner. You know why? Because I would be happy, irregardless of what they think or say. I would just be happy(assuming the person I'm with makes me happy).
To me, it only matters what I and my girl thinks. There's always going to be someone who'll have something to say. As for the homies, they'd have no room to talk with some of the things they do. I've learned that what I think and do and who I do it with is all that matters.
well truth my homies lol friends wouldnt talk to me any more i been with two trannies and dated four , my friends and family wouldnt except that i shared my bed with a trannie, id say 98 percent would be gone , my relationships have been good with my gurls but if my friends and family knew they would be gone on me im tired of it living this double life, xoxo deelo
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